Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Not the popular opinion

Today it became glaringly obvious to me that I do not 'fit in' with mainstream thinking. I've always been a bit out of the loop, as far as being in the popular crowd, wearing the latest fashions, buying the latest gadgets. You get the picture :)

Today was different though. I'm not sure what it was, but somehow during a discussion on birth control, at a local moms group that I go to, I was struck by the fact that I do not fit in.

We had a public health nurse talking about the different forms of birth control. She mentioned that they are now saying its OK to take the Pill continually so you never get your period. That immediately got my heart racing. I feel so strongly that chemical birth control is just wrong, and completely disregarding what God created our bodies to do just goes against every fiber of my being. You may disagree with me, and that wouldn't surprise me.

There are other areas though, where I just don't even want to speak up anymore, for fear of being slammed for my views. I'm sure people already talk about me behind my back for the things I believe in. You know what though? I'm going to hold my head up high and just continue on. I want the best for my family, as we all do. I just may have a different opinion on what the 'best' is.
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I've been listening to a song all afternoon. It's Psalm 23, by Brent & Temple. I discovered this song on YouTube. Temple posted this video of herself singing this song while in labor with her son, and it's just a beautiful, peaceful song. It's so calming, and I hope to sing it sometime either on my own, or with Keith's sisters.

While listening to this song, I've been thinking about a family from our church that just lost their daughter on Saturday. I hope they are feeling peace, and that their faith in God is bringing them comfort at this time.

27 comments:

Donna said...

We are all entitled to our opinions!

You don't look down on them for their decision nor should they to you!

It is just wrong for you personally, it is good when we know what God's plan is for ourselves.

Have a great day!

Lindsey Dueck said...

I don't think the birth control pill is wrong nessesarily, but I do think it is horrible. I hate what it has done to my body. It is just not natural. So I guess in a sense I think it is wrong. I will NEVER use it again, thats for sure!

Sheila said...

I've always been a big believer that if you feel passionatly about something you should speak up about it. There's nothing wrong with you voicing your opinion.
I think life would be much simpler if people would speak their minds as opposed to having issues swept under the carpet. And that's my OPINION!

Eva said...

I too, am kind of an outcast in my thinking (not mainstream a bit). We use homeopathics and herbs in our house instead of mainstream painkillers or antibiotics. And, we don't immunize. I often get looked down upon for it but this is just me. Right now we are getting animals - pigs, beef, chickens and we are choosing not to feed them starter feed (with meds in it) or grower feed (with so much protein that they grow very rapidly). The feed mill said we 'had' to. We are entitled to our opinion.
You are entitled to your opinion and I appreciate it that you put aren't afraid to share it on your blog.

Andrea said...

Well, you're not alone. :) I too do not have the popular opinion when it comes to a lot of things...birth control, babywearing (I don't know if you've got any of the "he'll never go to anyone else if you keep wearing him like that all the time", etc. comments, but I have!), parenting style (like not taking Tate to play in the nursery during church if he is being naughty or noisy...etc, etc, etc. The list goes on. And like you, I don't speak up about what I believe about these topics unless someone asks me because people can just be so mean sometimes! But yes...I'm happy that I have a best friend (you! :) ) who doesn't always just 'go with the flow'!!

melissa said...

Good for you Stacey. You wanna know what I'm passionate about, that isn't popular?! I will not shop at Walmart. I hate what they do to smaller centers. I hate how they treat their employees (avoiding giving benefits etc), and the source of their products. What are the consequences of us as North Americans insisting on getting the cheapest price? We keep sweatshops going.

Evan and Mel said...

I used to think that taking the pill was the only way to go. I was on a low dose pill after we had Emmanuel and when I got off we got pregnant with Micah right away. Since Micah I was diagnosed with Endometreosis and put on the highest dose to slow the scar tissue growth and help with pain.
I got of the pill in October and was told that we could start to try to have a baby in 3 months and due to my history of getting pregnant easily we should be pregnant fast.
We are still not pregnant and it has been7 months. I found another doctor who told me that high dose pills screw your body up so much that it takes over a year to safely conceive again and that is only in 75% of women.
I will never again go on tyhe pill, it has been a horrible ride and not worth it.

Elaine said...

When we got married, we decidet to not have kids until I finished my apprenticeship and the doctors told me the pill is the best way to go. After I saw what the pill had done to some of my friends bodys I was not so sure about that. And we endet up praying about that and not using the pill. Belive it or not, I was not getting pregnant since one month after my final excam. After we had Jana we prayed again for God leading us about the next child. When the time came that I wold like to get pregnant again it just happened, without using anything. Mark 11, 23.24

Ellen said...

I totally agree with you about the fact that everyone wants the best for their family but the 'best' is different for different people.

Melanie said...

We all have opinions, but we need to feel free to share them with respect and understanding not everyone will agree with us. It's tough to feel outnumbered, but it is a great reminder to me that God has created each of us with a mind to use, not follow the status quo.

If you feel what you are doing is the best for your family, stick to it. And you are doing a great job!

Alyson said...

young girls are not told the truth about what birth control does to our bodies. Not good.
no you are not alone in this.
great post

Anonymous said...

You people make it sound like the pill turns you into a gremlin or something... hahaha

Lindsey Dueck said...

it pretty much does

Anonymous said...

riiiiight...

Anonymous said...

I'm actually curious as to what people are talking about here... "what the pills has done to their body" or "what it has done to their friend's bodies"... did you/they grow a tail or something?

Anonymous said...

I agree with the anonymous comment. you do make it sound like something horrible has happened, makes us who are on it feel like we're doing something horrible....

Anonymous said...

The pill has different side effects on each and every one of us. For some its good, for some its bad.

Stacey said...

If anyone is interested in hearing my thoughts on the Pill, and why I think it's terrible you can email me. I don't think its fair to post personal stories while you remain anonymous.

Warren & Liane Thiessen said...
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Warren & Liane Thiessen said...

jeez, what' with all the rude comments by anonymous people all of a sudden? I would agree with that last anonymous comment: the pill can affect everyone differently. You couldn't pay me any amount of money to take the pill again.
I also agree with Stacey, post your name, and we can talk about it.
People need to know both sides of the story, not just the stuff multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical companies feed you.

- Liane

Mrs. Hurzeler said...

I think it is great Stacey that you know what you believe and stand up for it! I am also as you would say not in the mainstream, but didn't God say the path was narrow? You would think according to some people I know that if you don't do what is dictated to you in popular culture that somehow you are just not worth the time. Sad that even Christians can be like that. God Bless You, Keith, and the little ones.

Melanie said...

What's with the anonymous comments all of a sudden? That really bothers me when someone hides behind anonymity.

Sheila said...

I refuse to be anonymous, and I'm not afraid to speak my mind. On the topic of the pill, it did wonders for my body, and unfortunately I don't need to be on it anymore. If you're all looking for permanent birth control there is the option of getting your tubes tied.
But seriously though, I think there are greater concerns in this world than debating which form of birth control is best! :)

Sybil said...

It's very hard to stand up and be different from the rest of the crowd! We had a son with Down syndrome for 27 years before the Lord took him Home, and there were lots of stares and judgements because Jeff was different. But God answered prayer, and sent us lots of help. Now I am 73 years old and know that the Lord is faithful, and will help us be faithful. So, keep on keepin' on! (My blog is www.journeywithjeff.blogspot.com if you'd like to add it to your wonderful blog) Sybil

Lindsey Dueck said...

I didn't mean to make it sound like you are a bad person if you take the pill, but I just feel like it turned my body into a gremlin! LOL. I would never reccomend it to anyone, ever again. Especially if you want to plan a family. Chances are your plan isn't going to work out. It is just not good for you. I wish I had gotten all the truth about it.

Dianna said...

I'm with you on the safe method and natural way of birth control. Why infect our God given bodies with a chemical drug that is soo unnatural?! Every human being is perfectly shaped and formed in the image of God He planned them long before we came to be why would we go against God and shield ourselves from the most miracles thing as giving birth to His children and raising them for His kingdom. But He's also given us common sense where we need to go to Him in prayer that it's gonna happen in His own time and how much a woman's body can take. Your body will let you know. I'm with you Stacey you're def. not alone

Mark said...

Hey Stacey, I just got back from Belize and was checking out your blog today. Lots of comments on this one. First of all, let me say that I admire you for bravely stating your opinions. I like it! I also agree with others that as long as it is discussed respectfully and with kindness, you can discuss almost anything. Even people passionately at odds with each other can still have useful conversation.

As my own blog is no stranger to controversy, I have been reflecting on the weakness of the blog medium (and the written word medium in general) when it comes to discussing things that we may disagree on. The problem with blogging (besides the possibility of people sometimes abusing anonymity) is that so much of a person's message is left up to interpretation. In face to face conversation you can see facial expression, detect the tone of the speaker, and hear which words are emphasized (and which ones aren't).

A commenter may mean something as gently sarcastic, playful, tongue in cheek, humorous, etc. but readers may hear it as an attack, an insult, jaded, argumentative, etc. There is so much opportunity for miscommunication. And unlike a face to face conversation, you can't tell if what you are saying to someone is landing on them incorrectly until it is too late. Thus repair attempts (common in face to face discussions) don't happen right away and people can get ticked off. Accusations fly and pretty soon what was a discussion of opinions becomes "personal attacks." At least that what has the potential to happen. Plus, if someone is offended on blog they can simply just not comment back (the equivalent of storming out of a room or the silent treatment) - never allowing miscommunicated thoughts to be questioned or corrected. So then even if you think you've offended someone, getting specific feedback on what exactly it was that offended other is challenging because the person is under very little pressure to respond. Blogging is great, but it takes different writing skills to communicate clearly and accurately. Emoticons (as much as I hate them) would be helpful I think.

OK, this is WAY too long a comment, my apologies! As for your original comment about birth control I have no opinion as I am ignorant on the topic. I would be interested to know about the side effects and research on it though. I'm still enjoying your blog and say hi to Keith for me!