Tuesday, August 12, 2008

A trip to the city

Today I headed to the city with Bria. She had 2 appointments today. First an ultrasound on her kidneys, and then we met with her kidney specialist. My mom came along to help me out a bit. Thank goodness she did, because Bria had a rough day! I think she's finally figured out how to throw an all out tantrum. More on that later. For now, let's talk about her kidneys :)

For those who don't know, Bria was born with kidneys that do not function totally normally. The top portion of her left kidney is very swollen, and drains much too slow. It has it's own separate ureter (tube draining the kidney) that is majorly swollen.

At first, the Doctor just wanted to kind of monitor the situation, and hope for the best. Bria didn't have any infections til a couple months ago. So, only one infection in her year of life :) I figured that was pretty good, but today the Doctor said that even one infection is not a good thing. It can lead to more and more infections, and damage the functioning part of her kidney.

So, she recommended surgery. I have such mixed emotions about this. On one hand, I realize that this is probably the best option for my little girl. It would allow her kidney to drain properly, and greatly reduce the risk of infection. On the other hand, surgery scares me. I don't want anyone cutting my baby open. I don't want her to have to be in pain. That is just the mother in me :)

So, we will be scheduling surgery for October I think. Scary.

Now for the tantrums... Bria sure showed her strong will today. She had a huge screaming fit in the health food store. She was tired and hungry, but this went far beyond a little whining. It was so embarrassing. She did the same thing this evening when I wanted to change her diaper. She wanted to eat popcorn with Daddy and Rowan. She probably screamed for like 10 minutes! Yikes. I put her in her crib and told her I wouldn't get her out until she stopped screaming. I don' t know how much she understands, but she did eventually calm down a bit. Any advice on how to deal with toddler tantrums? It would be much appreciated :)

So, no pictures for today, but stay tuned for some pictures from our weekend. We had a great time at our local festival.


Wendy said...

Lani is the queen of tantrums. We tried putting her in the crib as well, but then I felt bad because I didn't want her to think negatively about her bedroom. Now she sit's in her Dora chair that we have in the living room when she needs to calm herself down. She's older than Bria but we tell her when you are all done crying then you can get up. Most of the time it takes her a second then she says "I all done crying". Then we talk a little about what upset her so much. It seems to be working since the tantrums have lessened. Now if I could figure out how to handle the public ones:)

Jamy said...

I think I'd feel the same as you about the surgery. Your baby is not suppose to be cut open. ITs not right. But hopefully it'll make things better.
Caden has recently started tantrums as well. Who knew a 1 year old could do that. His involve stomping his feet, collapsing on the floor and crying. At home, I mostly just walk away. Like Wendy said, I don't want to make the crib a bad place, cause he loves his crib. I agree with the time out chair idea. It's only happened a couple of times in public, but I just hold his face in both hands and tell him to quit it. For now, that seems to work ok. Hope you figure something out.

Susanna said...

Surgery is not fun, and we've been through it. Addison was only 4 weeks old when he had surgery on his stomach (the opening from the stomach was too small that he couldn't digest any food and would have died of starvation/dehydration). Handing my tiny baby over to the surgeon was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my entire life, and seeing him come out of the surgery later was almost even harder. However, after a few days he was completely fine, could eat and digest food, and hasn't stopped growing since! The surgery saved his life and even though it was hard at the time, yes, it is soo worth it! It's scary, and your child will have a scar, but what a great reminder every day of the precious life they are to you and that your child will live because of it.

The Pauls' said...

Seeing your child go through surgery is not an easy thing but sometimes necessary. I hope you will feel more at peace about this as the time comes closer.

As for tantrums, like has been said, walking away sometimes can be enough as a tantrum usually likes an audience. But sometimes other measures are needed. Isolation, whether in bed or otherwise is effective as well. I don't think I have ever noticed negative feelings about their crib after being place in there for isolation. But if you feel that isn't an option a playpen could work too.

As for the tantrums in public, if you work on this diligently at home, you shouldn't have major problems in public. Sometimes it's just easier to ignore at home because you don't feel others watching. So be aware, watch even the little tantrums and work on them. Let her know it is not acceptable behaviour. And most of all be consistent. Otherwise you will confuse her of what is the standard. Hope this helps.

Ellen said...

I totally know the feeling of the tatrum thing :) K is already starting to try this too. she was walking around with her toothbrush in her mouth (which is dangerous since she's still a bit wobbly) and she wouldn't give it to me, so I took it from her and she threw a fit, face down on the floor crying/screaming and then she would stop and look up at me and throw herself down again.. I just left her there and continued on my day - soon she stopped and came looking for me :) I think they understand a lot more than we think, as long as things are put simply :)

amy said...

I will be praying for little Bria and especially for you as you and Keith prepare for 'october'.
I imagine it will feel good to know that her kidneys are 'fixed' and you won't have to wonder what's going on in her little body.