Monday, July 13, 2009

I just hate saying no


Lately I've had about a billion phone calls from different charities, asking for my money. All of them have been great causes, and I've had to say no to every one of them. It's about to drive me crazy!

I mean, I don't mind getting one call every few months. It gives me time to build up the courage to say 'Sorry, we're just as broke as the next guy' or whatever. I can't give to everyone who asks, it just doesn't work. And I hate being put on the spot to make a decision like that on my own. It's not like I'm the one out there earning money to give away. I spend it to provide for our family, but any 'giving' I like to discuss with Keith. I can't do that when they call in the middle of the day.

What do you do when they call? Do you just hang up? Say sorry, but no? Give them $20? I don't really feel like doing this again. Maybe it's time to get call display....

20 comments:

Alison said...

Get call display!!! Then don't answer any unfamiliar numbers! That's what I do at home because Rod has tons of "work" calls at home constantly and I don't want to talk to them.. MUCH easier!

sheplaysaccordian.blogspot.com said...

We actually do not have call display. However, we do get lots of calls, every week, and all I do is say no. I have no problem saying no, and besides, how do you really know if the people who are calling are legite, and we do not do any business requiring money over the phone, Never!
My two cents worth.

Cheryl said...

I hear ya! I hate being rude to people... I know they have tough jobs! My solution lately has been to explain that I cannot make a decision without asking Andy first, and then I ask if they have a website I can go to where I can read about their work and give to their cause if we decide together it's something we want to support. Most will stutter, pause a bit, and then say goodbye. They're not used to a polite response that is reasonable.

Since I'm in Development & Fundraising for my own work, I know a bit about how this stuff works. If there is any reasonable campaign lined up, there will be a way to provide literature to those who are interested. Worth a try. Let me know how it goes!

Jobina said...

There is also a government site that you can put your number on and it will block some charities and telemarketers from calling you. I'm sorry, I forget what it's called though. For myself, I figure that Mark and I can decide together what to give to and I don't need people begging me for money, so as soon as I realize who it is I just say, "i'm sorry but no thank-you, have a good day." And, yes, I say it while they're talking.
It's hard, but I just don't like being manipulated in giving by people.

Kenzie Prudhomme said...

I LOVE my call display and do not answer any number I do not recognize. I figure if they really want to talk to me they will leave a message.
If by chance I do end up talking to one though I just politely say no. I would never hang up or be rude. I've been on the other end before and have ended up in tears over rude people.

Drea said...

I dont answer numbers I dont recognize the area code. So typically dont get bothered.
If it is one i answer and its a charity i just tell them no thanks.
if they keep going i just repeat "sorry sir.. now is just not the time" and hang up LOL

hard thing is most ppl know we are a pastor/pastors wife so i have to be careful how i hang up.. i dotn want ppl thinking we're greedy ministers family or something ha!

Jay Boaz said...

I usually let them do their spiel, then tell them sorry, not interested. Then if they keep pestering I get a little firmer, but I've only ever hung up on a telemarketer once because they would not listen and just kept bulldozing along with different donating options.

While it's true their job is tough, I only have so much sympathy since they chose to apply for an out-going call center job. I would never, ever, work in an outgoing call center simply because I hate being bothered at home. I could handle an inbound calls only one though.

Nathanael and Katie said...

We get lots of calls at work! My favourite response is 'thank you for the opportunity, BUT... we have already decided where our charitable donations will go this year'.

Monika Thiessen said...

I like Cheryl's response. I usually just say that I have my charities I support and I don't support anyone that solicits over the phone (I have the same response for some of those that come to the door).

Tara said...

I used to have telemarketers call at least once a day. Since I put my number on the Do Not Call list (you can sign up online), I don't receive ANY! It's very nice!

Alison said...

I had another thought! Maybe give the phone to Rowan! LOL!

Andrea said...

Yep...I hear you too! I always feel bad, but I always say no. We do give of our money...just not to those organizations. And actually, if you ask them to take you off their calling list they HAVE to do it according to the law (or you could sue them! haha)...and then they'll hopefully never bug you again. :)

3 for Me! said...

In the Staes we have a "NO Call" list... you sign-up for it online. Anyway, if you haven't given out you # through business transactions then it's illegal for them to call!!!

Seriously, we barely ever get calls...

When I do, I usually politely decline EARLY in the conversation.... even
"Gotta go... stinky diaper duty!" will do:)

Ellen said...

I also tell them that we've already decided on our donations this year. If I am kinda interested I also ask for a website and tell them we will look into it and consider for next year. If I don't care for them to call me ever again I ask them to remove me from their list. You know what I hate, is dealing with people selling stuff at the door - there's no call display for that! Plus it's usually at a bad time for me (with the kids) and it's harder saying no to someone's face than over the phone!!

sheplaysaccordian123.blogspot.com said...

I also forgot to add that I usually tell whoever's calling that we already have our charities that we donate to as well, and politeley say goodbye and hangup.

Anonymous said...

We have a do not call list in Canada, too. Google 'do not call list Canada' and you should find the list where you can add your name and number.

The website explains who can and can not call you based on your enrollment on the site. It has been wonderful for our family. I used to get interrupted all the time during the day. Now I barely get a call like that. Good luck!

marilyn

Stacey said...

Unfortunately, it's the charities that are still aloud to call. I've been on the 'do not call' list for as long as it's been around. Somehow charities are exempt from it.

Laura said...

I've heard that some of those people calling for so called "charities" are actually scams....so I always say no anyway because it's so hard to know if it's for real or not.

ONTARIO THIESSENS said...

I interrupt them after their first sentence and say "no thank you, we're not interested." Then I hang up immediately even if they are talking. When I answer the phone if there is a delay I hang up. We also have call display.
Brenda

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